Wednesday, August 12, 2009

The 5 C's of Finding the Right Life Partner (Pt 2)


"And it happened, before he had finished speaking, that behold, Rebekah, who was born to Bethuel, son of Milcah, the wife of Nahor, Abraham's brother, came out with her pitcher on her shoulder. Now the young woman was very beautiful to behold, a virgin; no man had known her. And she went down to the well, filled her pitcher, and came up. And the servant ran to meet her and said, "Please let me drink a little water from your pitcher." So she said, "Drink, my lord." Then she quickly let her pitcher down to her hand, and gave him a drink. And when she had finished giving him a drink, she said, "I will draw water for your camels also, until they have finished drinking." Genesis 24:15-21 (NKJV)


So far we have looked only at the first 2 C's, now we'll consider the next three.
When choosing the right partner we are to seek godly..

1. Christians
2. Counsel
3. Character

Abraham's servant sought for the woman who was not simply beautiful but who was a dedicated and loving servant. His requirement was that the bride-to-be would offer him a drink and also water his ten camels. Now, one camel alone would need about six of Rebekah's water jars - thats sixty rounds of water from the well! This shows us that Rebekah was a hard working servant who thought not of herself but had compassion on others. Christian character is vitally important when you are seeking for the right life partner. Look for signs of selfless service and compassion in the other person above external beauty and an impressive resume.

4. Communing

What was Isaac doing as the servant was out looking for a bride for him?

"And Isaac went out to meditate in the field in the evening; and he lifted his eyes and looked, and there, the camels were coming.." Genesis 24:63 (NKJV)

Isaac was a man of prayer and he was meditating on the Lord whilst his bride was being brought to him. If you want to get the best spouse, pray for the right one. Spend time meditating on the Lord and seeking His will in all things, especially concerning your life partner.

5. Communication

This is where Isaac and Rebekah failed and later we see the terrible results of bad communication in their relationship. Isaac was a quiet, contemplative type and Rebekah was probably more bubbly and approachable. Their communication probably failed early on and led to terrible things in their marriage.

Tomorrow we will see how this lack of communication effected them and their children.


Rebekah did not just satisfy one thirsty soul
But ten empty camel humps were made whole.
Her selfless service and enduring grace
Were what put a smile on the servants face.


"Father, help me to be the best partner to the one you've chosen for me. Help me to be compassionate and selfless and serve them with endurance all the days we are together. Help me to pray for them and, when we are together, with them, so we can be a powerful team for Your kingdom. Amen.!"

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